A relationship time bandit is one who enters into a relationship with no intention of ever committing. They want the full benefits that come with a relationship or marriage without ever committing.

Well here is a story. There was a girl named *Tanya who met and fell in love with a boy called *Max. Despite the fact that Max was well into his 20s, something about him hadn’t developed properly. He lacked the emotional maturity expected of someone his age. He dated Tanya for sixteen years then dumped her. Apparently he got bored. Well, that is what I call abuse. Abuse of time…..time wasters …..relationship time bandits.

It’s about time that women take control of relationships, after all we attract what we reflect. Any woman that wants a serious relationship should make it well known to the guy in advance. If the man is a time waster she will know and he will most probably not stick around for long. It’s like going to delete someone on Facebook only to find that they have already deleted you…….that’s when I say …the trash finally grew some brains and took itself out. I believe that women get it wrong when they date a man for a long period of time without ever knowing where the relationship is headed. Dating a man for years is no guarantee that the relationship will materialise into marriage.

Sometimes when people date for long it does materialise into marriage but at times it doesn’t. Unfortunately, it’s a man’s world. When a man dates a woman for a long period of time he can always go ahead and date an even younger and hotter woman. However, that isn’t always the case with women. Most women still prefer to date and marry more mature men. Men that are emotionally and financially stable. However, such kind of stability comes mainly with age and this in turn shrinks the dating pool of older women. Also not to mention that most women are concerned about the medical complications and risks involved with having kids at a later age…..for example at 40. The good news is that with technology and medical improvements more and more women are able to get kids at a later age. Despite all these improvements, most women would rather get their babies earlier in life. At the end of it all it’s the woman who mainly stands to lose.

The major signs that you are dealing with a time bandit:
• He will make you wretched. He will use you as a booty call for as long as he can.
• He will not let you meet his family or friends. If you meet his friends they will not know the role you play in his life ie side chic, booty call, friends with benefits etc
• He will ensure that you have no role in his life. He won’t give you the keys to his house or allow you at his work place. He will make sure that you are irrelevant.

However, there are other time bandits that have perfected the art of deception. The ones that let you move in with them and even dangle an engagement ring in your face. Now these are the veterans of the game. The ultimate time wasters. They will use you in every way possible. They will let you play wife and the scam of them all will even dig into your pocket. They are so shameless and they actually expect the woman to contribute or take care of them financially and when they finally dump the girl she walks away with nothing. No alimony, just wasted years and empty pockets, if not serious debts.
So my advice is that women should say what they want. They should not be afraid to air their expectations and they should do it as soon as they possibly can. After all there is nothing to lose. Anyone who doesn’t give you a commitment within a reasonable time for no apparent reason isn’t worth your time. He isn’t worth your youth and especially not worth a decade of your life.

*For purposes of this article the real names of the parties have been changed to protect the identities of the people in question